I Never Thought of It That Way

Name: I Never Thought of It That Way
Author: Mónica Guzmán

Mónica Guzmán

Bridge deep divides through curiosity, empathy, and better listening that turn opposing views into meaningful conversations.

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Outline

What's it about?

I Never Thought of It That Way (2022) offers a practical guide to talking with people whose views are very different from our own. Mónica Guzmán explains how curiosity, rather than debate, can help us understand what others believe and why. She shares tools for asking better questions, listening without judgement, and staying connected with friends and family despite disagreement, helping readers turn division into understanding.

Key ideas

Curiosity, rather than debate, is the better way to understand what other people believe and why they believe it.
Asking better questions turns a disagreement into a conversation instead of a contest.
Listening without judgement helps people with very different views stay in real contact with each other.
Friends and family can stay connected despite disagreement when we choose understanding over winning the argument.

About the author

Mónica Guzmán is a Mexican-American journalist, author, and speaker who works to bridge social and political divides. She has worked with Braver Angels, a national organisation that brings people with opposing views together for respectful conversation, and co-founded the Seattle newsletter The Evergrey. I Never Thought of It That Way is her first book.

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What is I Never Thought of It That Way about?

It is a practical guide by Mónica Guzmán to talking with people whose views differ greatly from ours. Its main idea is that curiosity, not debate, helps us understand others.

Who should read I Never Thought of It That Way?

Anyone who finds it hard to talk with friends, family or colleagues who see the world differently. It suits readers who want better listening and communication skills.

How long is the Durar summary of I Never Thought of It That Way?

The Durar summary takes about 15 minutes to read or listen to. It covers the book's tools for asking better questions and listening without judgement.