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John Gottman is a psychologist known for studying how real couples talk, argue and make up, and his books turn that careful observation into small, practical habits that make relationships feel safer and warmer. Start with The Relationship Cure, because its idea of noticing the small moments when someone reaches out for your attention, and turning toward them, works in every relationship you have, and then move to Eight Dates, which gives spouses a set of guided conversations about trust, disagreements, money, family and shared hopes. His work suits married couples and those preparing for marriage across the region, as well as parents and anyone who wants calmer, closer ties with family and colleagues.

Eight Dates

Strengthen your relationship through 8 meaningful conversations that deepen trust, navigate conflict, and align your future together.

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What is Eight Dates about?

Eight Dates (2019) offers couples a simple plan for building a stronger relationship: eight structured conversations, each held on a special date. Based on decades of research on thousands of couples, the book guides partners through essential topics such as trust, handling conflict, work and money, family, fun, personal growth, and shared dreams. Each date includes clear questions that help couples understand each other more deeply.

Who should read Eight Dates?

Married couples seeking deeper trust and connection
Engaged couples preparing for a strong, lasting marriage
Spouses who struggle to handle disagreements calmly

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The Relationship Cure

Strengthen your relationships by recognising small bids for connection and responding with the attention that builds trust and lasting closeness.

16 min

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What is The Relationship Cure about?

The Relationship Cure (2001) shows how the small moments of daily life decide the strength of our relationships with partners, family, friends, and coworkers. John M. Gottman and Joan DeClaire explain the idea of emotional bids, the everyday attempts people make to connect, and how turning toward them builds trust while turning away weakens bonds. The book offers a practical five-step programme for improving any relationship.

Who should read The Relationship Cure?

Spouses who want deeper trust and everyday closeness
Anyone seeking stronger, more trusting bonds with family
Employees who want warmer relationships with their coworkers

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About John Gottman

John M. Gottman and Joan DeClaire combine research and writing on relationships. Gottman is an American psychologist famous for decades of research on marriage and family relationships and co-founder of the Gottman Institute; his books include The Seven Principles for Making Marriage Work. DeClaire is an American writer on family and health topics who also co-wrote Raising an Emotionally Intelligent Child with Gottman.

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