Not Nice

Outline

Not Nice (2017) helps people who constantly try to please others and avoid conflict at the cost of their own needs. Aziz Gazipura explains how excessive niceness often comes from fear of rejection, and shows how to replace it with honest, confident, and respectful self-expression. With practical exercises, the book guides readers to set boundaries, say what they think, ask for what they want, and build healthier relationships.

• Constant niceness often comes from a fear of being rejected, not from genuine kindness toward other people.
• People-pleasing and avoiding conflict usually come at the cost of your own needs.
• Honest, confident and respectful self-expression can replace the habit of always trying to please.
• Setting clear boundaries is a learnable skill, and practical exercises help you build it.
• You can say what you think and ask for what you want while building healthier relationships.

Aziz Gazipura is an American clinical psychologist, author, and founder of the Center for Social Confidence, which helps people overcome shyness and social anxiety. He coaches and teaches people to communicate with confidence in their personal and professional lives. His books include Not Nice and The Solution to Social Anxiety.